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      直到看这部片子前，还从来没想到过女婿在入赘前拜见岳父会遇到这么多可怕的事情。我们或许可以叫gred是世界上最倒霉的新郎了（当然也拜他父母给他起的那个倒霉名字所赐，gay& “fucker”。。。真会想~）在那个周末发生的一切巧合的如同《死神来了》上那些死神匪夷所思的安排一样，看着倒霉的冒泡的gred真的可以让人笑到岔气。当然最后的结果是gred被逼到夺门而出，但是岳父大人在机场的那番变向的“求婚”确实全片最最温馨的时刻，做父亲的在将百般疼爱的女儿的手置于另一个将与她共度余生的另一个男人的手中时，那种感情可谓五味杂陈，幸福，欢喜，酸涩，当然还有一些吝惜。所以，岳父大人所作的这一切也就不难理解了。他用不太恰当的方式，想狠狠确定的就是是否能够信任的将女儿的幸福，自己精心保存了20多年的宝贝托付给别人。最后gred和他的岳父终于可以和平的对坐斟饮，女儿的婚期也近了。让我想到一句话：一切都没有意外，只是多了一些曲折而已，我们需要做的就是耐心的等待。
    哥哥的婚期也近了，大龄男青年的婚姻问题终于没有成为社会负担。祝他们幸福。

我是Robert de Nero的影迷，也很喜歡Ben Stiller，雖然他的經典搞笑方式有點定型了。這部電影搞笑是沒有到瘋癲的程度，但是無論是Jack還是可憐的Gaylord Focker都凝聚了太多的笑點，讓人無法不大笑。

最精彩的部分是相見後的晚飯。從Gｒｅｇ（Gaylord）的餐前禱告，到Jack的祭母詩都是金句，尤其是Greg評論說，Jack的詩是　"ｓｏ　ｔｏｕｃｈｉｎｇ　ａｎｄ　ｓｏ　ｍｕｃｈ　ｉｎｆｏｒｍａｔｉｏｎ．"

之後祖母的骨灰瓶摔碎，Jinx跳上去刨骨灰，後面就要應Pam媽媽說的，可憐的小貓還是喜歡刨貓砂小解。無論大臉貓Pam怎麼吹鬍子瞪眼，Jinx都堅持尿到骨灰上面，拋回一個堅忍且帶幾分挑釁的表情，也許這個表情都是Jack一手訓練出來的。

有趣的是，Jack認定Jinx不能按馬桶的水閥，理由是它沒有拇指。後面大姐的未來公公又強調了一次這個理論。沒有拇指，所以不可能按沖水閥。

遺憾的是，後面慘劇發生越來越劇烈幽默性反倒變小了，到收尾的時候就有點大勢已去的意思。不過好戲都要收場的，淡隱的結束方式也是合理的。

The comic movie “Meet the Parents” is also a thought-provoking one. Instead of just keeping laughing and laughing, I think more about the main characters (Greg and Jack), prejudice, bias, the relations between children and parents, etc. Without a doubt, the comedy tries to tell us something serious in an easy way.

1. About Plot
This movie tells us a dramatic story of a couple of lovers and a visiting to the woman’s parents’ house in a humorous tone. The man whose name is Gaylord Greg Focker fell in love with the woman Pam Byrnes and he made up his mind to marry her. By listening to Pam and her sister’s phone call unintentionally, Greg realized that he should ask for her parents’ (especially her father’s) permission if he wants to marry her. So he prepared a lot for the visiting to her parents’ house.
However, Rome was not built in one day. Greg lost his parking which contained the rings for the propose to Pam during the flight to Pam’s parents’ home which led to the following series of bad consequences. It was clear that Pam’s father Jack didn’t like Greg at all. Greg’s profession is nurse, which lead to Jack’s prejudice; Greg did not like cats, which make Jack unhappy because he was fond of them; Jack even suspected that Greg took drugs just because he said something like ‘puff the magic dragon’ carelessly.
Fortunately, to meet viewers’ expectation, the film has a happy ending. At the end of the film, when Greg finally gave up and decided to leave, Pam’s father Jack was convinced and changed his attitude towards the lover of his daughter. Greg came to the family again and make the offer of marriage to Pam successfully.

2. About Gaylord Greg Focker
I share the same opinion with most of audiences that I like Greg very much. Although he seems to be a little bit stupid and slow in response, he is a truly reliable young guy as a husband as well as a son-in-law. This conclusion can be drawn from the scene in the movie that when Pam’s father made him promise to obey the rules so that he could be maintained in the trust circle, he just kept it in mind and followed it carefully.
What is the most important thing is that he loves Pam deeply, for he sacrificed a lot to try to gain appreciation from his future father-in-law. For instance, he got along as well as possible with the cat which he used to hate and received Jack’s polygraph test tamely (although it is unreasonable and impolite). Jack was very rude to Greg which we can observe from Jack’s behavior, like, he even did not allow Jack to use the toilet bowl. But Jack didn’t complain a word about these things because of his true love to Pam. What a frank and lovely man he is!

3. About Jack Byrnes
Besides Greg, I also have affection on the other main character Jack, the father of Pam. It is true that he is very rigid when judging his daughter’s boyfriend. However, I can tell that these were all resulted from his endless love towards his daughter. He fully prepared for a surprise for another daughter Deborah Byrnes’s wedding ceremony and cared a lot for Pam’s future life. He is like a mirror which reflects the depth of fathers’ love in the whole world. Jack also makes me think of my own father Simon who loves me very much. I am sure when I bring my boyfriend home one day in the future, he must be very picky too. Thinking about my father, I consider Jack a good father. I even feel pity for Jack for he would have to let his sweet daughter live with others in the future.

4. About Prejudice and Bias
In the movie, I am deeply impressed by the prejudice and bias in U.S. The social classes are divided clearly in U.S., which are the upper classes, the middle classes and the lower classes. The higher-class people have a prejudice against the lower-class people, which can be seen in many American films, novels and news reports. The only thing I dislike in the comedy is the obvious prejudice Jack showed to Greg. He thought that Greg was not a successful and industrious man because he was only a nurse; he invited Pam’s ex Kevin Rawley to home deliberately to make Jack embarrassed; he even investigated Jack’s background through CIA. I feel very sorry for this kind of bias which commonly exists all over the world, not only in China. I just wonder that why a person who earn money to make a living is prejudiced against just because his/her occupation is not ‘good’ enough ?

5. About Children and Parents
When talking about my opinion about the relationship between parents and their children, I’d like to talk about more my own experience and ideas. When I was living together with my parents, I always complain that they nearly controlled every aspect of my life and their rules almost extended to every corner of my own personal affairs. I was impatient about their suggestions or comments on my behaviors. However, as time goes by, as I grew up and apart my parents to attend the university, I miss them so much, even their strong controlling and rules. It is sort of weird, isn’t it? I finally know that it was a kind of true happiness when you have someone be around with you and care about you. So it is the love that combines our parents and us together firmly. Whatever they do and say is aimed to make us happy. Keep this in mind and cherish the time you are spending with your parents instead of regretting after losing them.

又一部青山经常提起的片子
(你看看这厮平常推荐的都是什么片子)
其实还是挺不错的
毕竟人BenStiller就是靠拍这种片子活着的
而且竟然还能拉到RobertDeNiro

话说GaylordMarthaFocker(你看这ZB名字取的)打算和女友结婚
不过听说能不能结婚的关键在于能不能讨好岳父
正逢大姨子结婚
于是来到女方家

从一上飞机开始噩梦就开始了
先是行李太大要托运
然后行李就被弄丢了
然后就是一系列的倒霉事
比如崩了岳父老妈的骨灰盒
之后打水球过于投入让新娘破了相
然后抽烟烧掉了女友前男友做的婚礼祭坛
用来充数的猫毁了家里的东西
总之极尽所能的搞笑

没什么思想与意义
就是看着爽

   每次看到这些类型的片子，总是会下意识的比较美国家庭和中国家庭中父母子女的关系。记得昨天看American pie时，为其中一个男孩的父亲对他谈论性的那段情节念念不忘，搞笑是一方面，可是也体现了他们的开明程度。他在儿子去派对前说，你保证要做好安全措施。哇咔咔……这在中国也是可能有的场景，毕竟现在社会已经开明太多了，可是总是感觉有那么一点不同。
  其实我真的认为，每一个人都是独立自由的个体。当帕姆的爸爸搂着她，虎视眈眈的瞪着可怜的Focker时，帕姆只是一个小女孩，在爸爸的羽翼下。而当她和Focker两人在房间时，她又是一个正常的女人了。
  幸好帕姆的父亲在妻子的劝说中，以及女儿的电话中醒悟过来。他仍然是个好父亲。
  
  帕姆对他父亲说过，我真的很爱你，但有时候你真的很可恨。我希望这句话不是广大中国青少年们的心声。
  for parents，手要松开一些。

是给没有拜见岳父母的经历的可怜人们的最好教科书
除了名字噱头有点过分 电影带来的共鸣 联系着每个观者都有的类似经历